I will try to make this as short, yet informative as possible. As of January 2010, I became a single mother of 2 wonderful children, both under the age of 6. We live in small-town McComb, MS. I am going thru an extremely difficult divorce with the father of my children and though I still care for him as a person, I cannot love him as my husband any more. I am 27 years old. Throughout our 5 year marriage, there has been everything from domestic violence, verbal abuse, physical abuse (to me, NOT my children) adultery, financial strife, drug abuse and things of that nature. It took me 5 years, but I finally came to my senses and got me and my children out of that situation. I have been at my current job for almost 3 years. Since I have been here, my ex-husband has not worked. I have been supporting our family (day care, bills, rent, utilities & all for almost 3 years).
While I have a full-time job, I am unable to keep my head above water. Iíve applied for Section 8 assistance but was told that my gross amount is too much. I make less than $1,100 a month after taxes and insurance. I have applied for Food Stamps but have heard nothing back. There is a Day Care assistance program but only one of my children will be able to receive the benefits, IF I even qualify. I received $2000 from the income taxes which I used for my lawyer, but I still owe him $990. Fortunately, he is letting me pay it later as our trail date keeps getting pushed back.
I have the following expenses: Rent: $500 a month Daycare: $420 (for both of my children) Car Note: $150 Water: $45 Electricity: $125 Gas: $35
My ex-husband has been court ordered to pay child support, but has yet to do so. Iíve been living paycheck to paycheck since the beginning of February & feel like I have nowhere else to turn. I would take on a 2nd or 3rd job if I could, but with 2 young children itís very difficult. There just arenít enough hours in my days to get everything done that I need to do. I want to provide for my kids and buy them things that they need (and eventually the things they want too). I feel so helpless because I thought I did the right thing by getting me and my kids out of that environment, but now weíre struggling big time. He was given supervised visitation and opted OUT to see his kids for almost 6 weeks, which was hard to explain to my kids.
I have had to buy a whole new wardrobe for me and my kids as my ex husband either sold or threw away all of our clothes. Iím constantly going to garage sales to get clothes for my family. Iíve turned into a very frugal person. We donít have cable TV or anything and I will probably have to let my cell phone go at the end of this billing cycle because itís just an extra expense.
I understand the economy has put many MANY people in binds WORSE than mine and I try to keep that in mind when I stress about money and making the rent payment, but itís hard to because of my children. I brought them into this world and I want only the best for them. They deserve to have GOOD healthy meals, clothes without holes in them and a mama that doesnít cry every night because she doesnít know what the next day will bring.
Iím a very caring person and would do anything I could to help anyone. I just need help right now and am hoping that someone out there might be able to help me. I donít know where else to turn. Iíve only got the internet at work and can check it daily. If anyone out there could help me or maybe even refer me to somewhere where I could do contract work such as transcriptioning, telemarketing, collections, billing, or anything I would be eternally grateful.
If you have any questions please e-mail me as I can check my e-mail every day.
Thank you for reading, I hope that my story touches someone and I hear back from someone soon.